Why You're Probably Sabotaging Your Own Success (And Don't Even Know It)
The brutal truth about why most talented people remain invisible, and what to do about it.
Hey there,
Maya Angelou once said, “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”
Here’s a brutal truth nobody wants to hear: most talented people are invisible not because the world is unfair, but because they’re really, really bad at explaining what they do.
They have the story. They have the value. They have something worth sharing. But it stays locked inside because they can’t figure out how to tell it clearly.
I know, I know. That stings a little. But stick with me here.
The Uncomfortable Reality
You know what I’ve noticed after working with hundreds of creative professionals? The ones who complain the most about “not being discovered” are usually the same ones who, when asked what they do, give you a rambling three-paragraph answer that makes everyone’s eyes glaze over.
They’re living Maya Angelou’s agony every single day. The story is there—their expertise, their unique perspective, their value. But it’s trapped inside unclear messaging, scattered positioning, and the fear of being too specific.
It’s like watching someone try to seduce someone by reading them the phone book. Technically, you’re communicating. But you’re doing it so poorly that you might as well be speaking Klingon.
Most people think their problem is that they need better marketing. They need more followers. They need a shinier website.
Nope.
Your problem is that you’re afraid to be specific about what you actually do.
The Big Lie We Tell Ourselves
Here’s the lie: “If I narrow my focus, I’ll miss out on opportunities.”
Here’s the truth: If you don’t narrow your focus, you’ll miss out on everything.
Let me paint you a picture. You’re at a party. Someone asks what you do. You launch into this beautiful, comprehensive explanation of all your capabilities, all your services, all the different types of people you can help.
Know what they’re thinking? “Cool story… Can you please pass the chips?”
Now imagine instead you said: “I help adventure photographers stop undercharging for their work.”
Boom. They either know someone who needs that, or they don’t. But they definitely remember what you said.
Why Smart People Do Dumb Things
Here’s the paradox that screws over intelligent people: the more you know, the harder it becomes to explain what you do simply.
You see all the nuances. All the exceptions. All the ways your work connects to seventeen different things. So you try to capture ALL of it when you talk about yourself.
This is like trying to carry every single item from the grocery store in one trip because you’re too proud to make two trips. You end up dropping everything.
I did this for years. My bio was basically a novel. My website was a museum of every project I’d ever touched. When people asked what I did, I gave them a TED talk.
And you know what happened? Nothing. Because confused people don’t buy things. Confused people don’t refer you to their friends. Confused people nod politely and then forget you exist.
The Three Things That Actually Matter
After watching this trainwreck play out hundreds of times, I’ve figured out that people who actually get seen do three things:
1. They choose one thing to be known for.
Not seventeen things. One thing. Yeah, you can do other stuff too. But lead with the one thing that makes people go “Oh, THAT person.”
2. They talk like human beings, not like LinkedIn thought leaders.
They use words their grandmother would understand. They skip the jargon. They explain things like they’re talking to a smart friend over coffee, not presenting to a board of directors.
3. They’re okay with some people not getting it.
This is the hardest one. They’d rather be perfectly relevant to some people than vaguely interesting to everyone. They understand that “for everyone” is marketing speak for “for no one.”
The Week That Fixes Everything
Look, I get it. Clarity sounds easy in theory. In practice, it’s like trying to pick your favorite child while blindfolded.
That’s why I created something kind of crazy: a seven-day program where we just... figure it out. Together. No more months of overthinking. No more analysis paralysis. Just seven days of focused work to get clear on who you are, what you do, and how to talk about it without putting people to sleep.
Because here’s what I’ve learned: most people don’t have a talent problem. They have a clarity problem. And clarity problems don’t require more time. They require better decisions.
The Permission You Didn’t Know You Needed
Here it is: You have permission to stop trying to be everything to everyone.
You have permission to disappoint some people.
You have permission to be specific.
You have permission to leave money on the table from opportunities that aren’t quite right.
You have permission to tell your story.
Because here’s the counterintuitive truth: the more specific you are, the more opportunities you actually get. Not fewer. More.
When you’re the person who does that one specific thing really well, people remember you. They tell their friends about you. They hire you even when you’re not the cheapest option.
Your story stops being untold and starts being unforgettable.
The Bottom Line
Most people spend years building their “brand” when they could spend days getting clear on their message.
The difference? Clarity compounds. Everything else is just expensive procrastination.
So here’s my challenge: stop hiding behind your complexity.
Pick one thing.
Get really, really good at talking about it.
Watch what happens.
Trust me, it’s scarier than staying invisible, but it’s also a hell of a lot more fun.
Until next time,
—Chris
P.S. If you’re tired of being the world’s best-kept secret and ready to do something about it, I’m running a program next month. Seven days, small group, no bullshit. Details below if you’re interested. If not, no hard feelings. But stop complaining about being invisible if you’re not willing to do anything about it.
7 Day Brand: For people who are done being invisible.
👉🏻 June 16-22, 2025
👉🏻 Small group
👉🏻 Daily hands-on sessions
👉🏻 Click here for details
Because clarity doesn’t require months. It requires decisions.
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